‘Nightline’ interviews gay Mormon in mixed-orientation marriage

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After a blog posting of a gay Mormon who said he is happily married to a woman went viral, ABC’s Nightline spoke with the post’s author. Josh Weed said he has been married for 10 years and is attracted to men, and to his wife, but no other women. However, using this story as an example is potentially harmful to other gay Mormons, said Ben Visser, the Utah Gay Father’s Association president.

“The media spotlight has recently fallen on a young couple which appears to be defying this statistic. We support each individual’s pursuit of happiness and wish Josh and Laurel Weed a long and meaningful life together,” Visser said. “We are concerned, however, that the presentation of their story lacks the balance that a contrary point of view would provide. Neglecting to highlight how rare their story is suggests possibilities that are out of sync with the far more common reality.”

The six-minute Nightline investigation outlines traditional Mormon beliefs and challenges that Weed faces, but neglects to share the dangerous impacts that entering a mixed-orientation marriage carries, he said. While often sustained for a short time, mixed-orientation marriages frequently end in heartache and broken family relationships.

“We look forward to a day when society celebrates the love upon which a family is founded—regardless of the genders of the parents; when families headed by two men or two women are seen as equal in every respect to those headed by a man and a woman,” Visser said. “While we appreciate the opportunity for dialogue that the Weeds’ story provides, we recognize that the conversation requires many voices.”

Weed, who is a family counselor and a therapist, denies telling his clients they can change their sexual orientation and said that he acknowledges most of them, “probably won’t.”

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  1. I probably know over a hundred gay men (and a few gay women) who are or were in mixed-orientation marriages (including myself). The only ones who made it past the fifteen year mark did so with tremendous self-sacrifice and considerable angst and unhappiness.

    I've been incredibly lucky in that my ex has been understanding and supportive—we're still best friends. But even so, coming out and navigating the end of a marriage has been difficult and painful for everyone involved.

    I cannot recommend mixed-orientation marriage as a viable solution for *any* gay man or woman, no matter the apparent (ten-year) "success" of a couple featured in a news piece.

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