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Timeline to a ‘Happy Pride!’

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My all-time favorite greeting is “Happy Pride!” I first heard it while I was attending my first Pride event. That was several years ago in San Francisco. Now years later, I like to reflect on how far the movement has come. In the midst of all the festivities, one may quickly forget that the ability we have to be so open is a relatively young one.

Most are aware of the Stonewall riots 49 years ago this June and the Christopher Street Liberation March the following year that would become known as the first Pride Parade. We’ve accomplished a lot since, but here are highlights of some of the milestones over the past 25 years.

1993 — Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell is signed into law making it illegal for openly gay people to serve in the military. By stating it would also prohibit harassment of those who choose not to disclose their sexual orientation, justifies the law.

1995 — The Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act includes the Hate Crimes Sentencing Act. It permits a judge to place harsher sentences to those who single out victims based on sexual orientation, religion, gender, disability, race, color, or nationality. Until this time, there were no harsher punishments for hate crimes anywhere in the U.S.

1996 — Defense of Marriage Act is signed by President Clinton which bans same-sex marriage and defines marriage as “A legal union between one man and one woman as husband and wife.”

— Three months after DOMA, a judge in Hawaii ruled that the state does not have a legal right to deprive same-sex couples of marriage. It makes Hawaii the first state to recognize same-sex couples the same rights as heterosexual couples.

2000 — Vermont adopts ‘Civil Unions’ which legalizes the union between same-sex couples.

2003 — Utah no longer deems homosexual activity illegal. Up to this point, if one was found guilty of sexual interaction with another of the same sex, it could be punishable with imprisonment.

2005 — California legislature passes a bill allowing marriage between same-sex couples providing rights and benefits regardless of orientation.

2008 — Voters in California approve Proposition 8, making same-sex marriage illegal.

2010 — A federal judge overturns Proposition 8, finding it unconstitutional for voters to determine who should have the right to marry another consenting adult. Same-sex marriage is once again permitted.

2011 — DADT is repealed, ending a ban on homosexual men and women from serving openly in the military.

2012 — President Obama becomes the first sitting president to state support of same-sex couples to marry publicly.

2014 — The Supreme Court denies reviewing several cases, including one from Utah, legalizing same-sex marriage in five states.

2015 — The Supreme Court legalizes same-sex marriage in all 50 states.

2016 — The Pentagon announces a lift of the ban on transgender people serving openly in the military.

2017 — DC residents become the first permitted the gender-neutral marker “X” on driver’s licenses and ID cards.

— U.S. Department of Defense places a six-month delay on all transgender military applicants, followed one month later by the sitting president stating transgender individuals no longer may serve.

— The State of Virginia elects an openly transgender candidate to the Virginia House of Delegates becoming the first transgender person to serve on state legislature in American history.

— The Pentagon announces immediate processing of transgender military applicants as two federal judges ruled against the prohibition of transgender individuals ability to serve.

February 2018 — The first openly transgender person signed a contract to serve in our military.

We’ve come a long way, but there is still work to do. There are communities still conducting conversion therapies and pushing for recognition as being viable. We still have many facing workplace discrimination because of their gender and orientation. And yet, to this day, gay men are denied the right to donate the life-saving resource of blood and plasma. With the current administration in place, more than ever there’s a need to make our voices heard. Let’s get to it! HAPPY PRIDE!

Dr. Laurie Bennett-Cook is a Clinical Sexologist and Director of Sex Positive Los Angeles. Find out more at
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Dr. Laurie Bennett-Cook

Dr. Laurie Bennett-Cook is a graduate level Clinical Sexologist, with an undergraduate degree in psychology and a Doctorate Degree in Human Sexuality. As a Clinical Sexologist, she believes a large part of her job is to be a sex enabler. Through counseling, workshops, and hands on exercises, she assists others in achieving the level of sexual function they desire. She enjoys the study and research of not only what people are doing sexually, but how they feel about it. Dr. Laurie divides her time between Los Angeles California, and Salt Lake City, Utah. In addition to seeing clients in either of her offices or via skype, she is President for the non-profit, Sex Positive Los Angeles inc. (SPLA) and recently began a chapter in Salt Lake City, (SP-SLC). Her non-profit offers sexual education and support programs throughout Los Angeles and Salt Lake Counties. Rounding off her work, she is an IPSA certified Surrogate Partner Therapist working with clients and therapists in a triadic model to assist in bringing clients comfortable with their sexual selves. Dr. Laurie can be found in various publications; radio, podcast, and television interviews. For individual consultations or appointments please contact her at Welcoming and affirming of all gender identities, all sexual orientations, all sexual and relationship expressions.

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